Amazing how you just read my mind!  No kidding, I was just thinking of the lonely journey I've been on the past few years. When we begin to think of those we loved and now miss, it is almost a chemical reaction that occurs. The two are polar opposites and you don't know which way to go because both forces are so strong. They only way to cope with being suspended in the middle of these emotions is to cry. You can't say one is more important than the other. It's confusing and acts like quick sand.